What does Christmas mean to you? I couldn’t make it home this Christmas—for the first time in years. I didn’t expect it to be so hard. To make up for it, I said yes to nearly everything that turned up: practising for five weeks to carol in a park, a street party, countdown lunches and dinners, church service, new recipes. I still couldn’t help missing my family intensely and I really wanted to connect to the joy of the season. I started to realise that I’d become so attached to spending Christmas in a certain way that it was taking me a while to just see the festival for what…